A Letter to the Christian Who Uses Your Religion as a Blanket to Spread Hatred

I am a Christian woman. My faith is what my life is built on. As such, please know that I do not say anything you are about to read lightly. Jesus is love. So why do I see so many Christians acting in hate? I am so taken back when I see Christians being hateful and condemning to the sins they deem worse than others.

I’m not going to waste any time on fluff so let’s jump in. I hear a lot of people claiming Christianity is the reason they despise sin. But not all sin. Only the ones they have decided to be worse than others. These views typically attack the LGBT+ community & women’s rights. The bottom line is, we are all sinners. You, me, every single one of us. To deny that is to deny our need for Christ. No matter how “good” we are, we are sinners. God does not look at us and decide that one sin is worse than another. All sin is equal in the eyes of the Father.

So who are YOU, or me, or anyone besides God himself, to decide that being gay is “more of a sin” than sex before marriage? Or getting drunk? Or greed? I’m T I R E D of the same “Christians” that are so eager to ban abortions, normalizing the sins they want to participate in. If you are outraged about abortion & are passionate about making it illegal, you should be equally as passionate about making divorce & premarital sex illegal.

While we’re on the topic of abortion: I am pro choice. You know why? Because separation of Church & state exist for a reason. That’s why divorce is legal. Don’t want to participate in said legal action bc of your beliefs? Great! God gives us choice, He doesn’t force us into it. Abortions WILL happen whether legal or not, but as a Christian (and frankly, as a human being) I feel much better knowing that women can safely get them legally, than risk dying themselves by going through sketchy options. It is our duty to protect the woman already here, living amongst us.


I think the worst part about all of this is the hatred. The lack of love and acceptance.

You know what Jesus didn’t do?

He didn’t come to earth and scream in sinners faces to change because they’re sinners (that would be a lot of screaming, because again, we are all sinners). God calls us to love our neighbor. EVERY NEIGHBOR. The ones who look similar and different. The ones who sin similarly or differently. The broken. The kind. The mean. The hurting. The Christian. The atheist.

It doesn’t say “love your neighbor but only if they act like you.”

Picture your sin as a skyscraper. When God looks down, he sees one building. Whether you’ve sinned once or 100000 times, it is sin. Next time you want to put yourself on a pedestal for having “better sins” than someone else, don’t. The same people bashing others for being gay or pro-choice are the same people that congratulate their friend who gets pregnant out of wedlock. It’s inconsistent. Its picking the pieces of the Bible you want to adhere to because it fits your life better. So why not love EVERYONE?


Seeing this everywhere is so upsetting to me, because it is such a misrepresentation of what a relationship with God brings.. I believe being “religious” (but only when it fits your narrative) without relationship is what creates this. I can’t imagine how someone who has a relationship with God could possibly hate someone just because their sin is different from theirs.

If you’re reading this and you feel attacked, sit with that feeling for a bit. Analyze yourself. Ask God to search your heart. Why do you carry hatred? Why is someone “worth” less in your eyes because of how they’ve sinned? They’re worth just as much as you are to God. You are not better than anyone. We are all people. Truly ask yourself, what would Jesus do?

“Three things will last forever–faith, hope, and love–and the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:13

“Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.”
1 Peter 4:8

“We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love.
God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.”
1 John 4:16

“Whoever claims to love God yet hates a brother or sister is a liar. For whoever does not love their brother and sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen.”
1 John 4:20

To whomever is reading this, I want to make something abundantly clear. You are loved. I don’t know what your experience has been with faith/religion, but please know that God. Is. Love. Christ died for us all so that we can have eternal life. And I am so, deeply sorry if someone has portrayed an inaccurate display of what love is in your life… but I hope you can read this with an open heart, and know that what you’ve seen or experienced is not all that’s out there.


Jesus is love. So why do I see so many Christians acting in hate? I am so taken back when I see Christians being hateful and condemning to the sins they deem worse than others.

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  1. Julia says:

    Say it louder for the people in the back! Love this so much 💗

  2. Bellina Lie says:

    Thank you so much for this blog post 🙂 Having been extremely hurt by an ignorant Christian in the past, I gained some hope from this message you are trying to get across! 😀

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